华研原版 一辈子做女孩 英文原版小说 Eat Pray Love 美食 祈祷和恋爱 英文版同名电影原著 Elizabeth Gilbert 伊莉莎白 进口书籍 在线下载 pdf mobi 2025 epub 电子版

The only thing wrong with this readable, funny memoir of a magazine writer's yearlong travels across the world in search of pleasure and balance is that it seems so much like a Jennifer Aniston movie. Like Jen, Liz is a plucky blond American woman in her thirties with no children and no major money worries. As the book opens, she is going through a really bad divorce and subsequent stormy rebound love affair. Awash in tears in the middle of the night on the floor of the bathroom, she begins to pray for guidance, “you know —— like, to God.” God answers. He tells her to go back to bed. I started seeing the Star headlines： “Jen's New Faith！” “What Really Happened at the Ashram！” “Jen's Brazilian Sugar Daddy —— Exclusive Photos！” Please understand that Gilbert, whose earlier nonfiction book, The Last American Man, portrayed a contemporary frontiersman, is serious about her quest. But because she never leaves her self-deprecating humor at home, her journey out of depression and toward belief lacks a certain gravitas. The book is composed of 108 short chapters (based on the beads in a traditional Indian japa mala prayer necklace) that often come across as scenes in a movie. And however sad she feels or however deeply she experiences something, she can't seem to avoid dressing up her feelings in prose that can get too cute and too trite. On the other hand, she convinced me that she acquired more wisdom than most young American seekers —— and did it without peyote buttons or other classic hippie medicines. When Gilbert determines that she requires a year of healing, her first stop is Italy, because she feels she needs to immerse herself in a language and culture that worships pleasure and beauty. This sets the stage for a “Jen's Romp in Rome,” where she studies Italian and, with newfound friends, searches for the best pizza in the world......

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Elizabeth Gilbert is the author of a story collection, Pilgrims (a finalist for the PEN/Hemingway Award); a novel, Stern Men; and The Last American Man (a finalist for the National Book Award and the National Book Critics Circle Award).

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"He probably was. Your problem is you don't understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just can't let this one go. It's over, Groceries. David's purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to ...

Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.

We're miserable because we think that we are mere individuals, alone with our fears and flaws and resentments and mortality. We wrongly believe that our limited little egos constitute our whole entire nature. We have failed to recognize our deeper divine character.

Someday you're gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving.. You 'll see that you were in mourning and your hear was broken, but your life was changing and you were in the best possible place in the world for it-- in a beautiful place of worship, surrounded by grace. Take this time, every minute of it. Let things work out.

“But I love him."

"So love him."

"But I miss him."

"So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, and then drop it. You're just afraid to let go of the last bits of David because then you'll really be alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen if she's really alone. But here's what you gotta understand, Groceries. If you clear out all that space in your mind that you're using right now to obsess about this guy, you'll have a vacuum there, an open spot-- a doorway. And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in - God will rush in - and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go."

it is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection

书籍介绍

The only thing wrong with this readable, funny memoir of a magazine writer's yearlong travels across the world in search of pleasure and balance is that it seems so much like a Jennifer Aniston movie. Like Jen, Liz is a plucky blond American woman in her thirties with no children and no major money worries. As the book opens, she is going through a really bad divorce and subsequent stormy rebound love affair. Awash in tears in the middle of the night on the floor of the bathroom, she begins to pray for guidance, “you know —— like, to God.” God answers. He tells her to go back to bed. I started seeing the Star headlines： “Jen's New Faith！” “What Really Happened at the Ashram！” “Jen's Brazilian Sugar Daddy —— Exclusive Photos！” Please understand that Gilbert, whose earlier nonfiction book, The Last American Man, portrayed a contemporary frontiersman, is serious about her quest. But because she never leaves her self-deprecating humor at home, her journey out of depression and toward belief lacks a certain gravitas. The book is composed of 108 short chapters (based on the beads in a traditional Indian japa mala prayer necklace) that often come across as scenes in a movie. And however sad she feels or however deeply she experiences something, she can't seem to avoid dressing up her feelings in prose that can get too cute and too trite. On the other hand, she convinced me that she acquired more wisdom than most young American seekers —— and did it without peyote buttons or other classic hippie medicines. When Gilbert determines that she requires a year of healing, her first stop is Italy, because she feels she needs to immerse herself in a language and culture that worships pleasure and beauty. This sets the stage for a “Jen's Romp in Rome,” where she studies Italian and, with newfound friends, searches for the best pizza in the world......

• 作者：水仙操 发布时间：2014-09-14 22:13:38

  上班偷闲三个月读完，是时候考虑辞职去泰国旅行了呢｜2014.10 Thailand√

• 作者：Young 发布时间：2008-09-28 20:09:19

  前事不忘，后事之师。

• 作者：Adiósardour 发布时间：2011-01-25 21:33:48

  我依然天天禅坐，从斐利贝的床溜到沙发上，让自己静坐，对这一切表达感激。在他的阳台外头，鸭子一路聒聒叫，穿越稻田，到处聒噪戏水。如此放松地潜入禅修，仿如我的情人正为我准备沐浴。在早晨的阳光下裸着身子，只裹着一条薄毯，我融入恩典中，漂浮在无极的上空，犹如在汤匙上保持平衡的小贝壳。过去的人生，为何似乎很难。一切语言都是多余的，我的心灵，生活，感情终于又重新复归平静和正常。这是一趟学习享乐的旅程，也是一场召唤自我的人生之旅。没有旅伴，却跟最亲密的自己一起，由此更靠近自己。在这一整年的追寻快乐与虔诚之间的平衡中，我终于发现，拯救我的人，并非别人，而是我自己操控我，拯救我。

• 作者：大发发滚来滚去 发布时间：2017-02-26 12:01:21

  第二次看了，意大利还没看完，弃了。女主真的挺作。

• 作者：t 发布时间：2012-12-25 23:38:27

  当时在机场，就该拿fifty shades of grey而不是这本...

• 作者：韦罗尼卡 发布时间：2013-03-08 20:09:46

  三分之二听Elizabeth Gilbert自己读的有声书，三分之一看的。读的比写得好，第一部分比后面好。

• life is a long journey of self-discovery

  作者：yan 发布时间：2013-01-25 21:04:46

  The first time I read this book dates back to 2012, when I was still in the United States, I borrowed it from the library but it was a busy time so I only finished about one-third of the book and returned it. However, it is so amazing and interesting that I could not forget it.

  so this year, before the winter holiday, I purchased it online and can not wait to read it asa my holiday began.

  I adore the way Elizabeth Gilbert told the story and described her feelings. It is pretty humorous I have to say, and it is not too much humor that you will get tired to soon, it is those witty humor that echo with your own feelings sometimes. And she loves making jokes on herself, which makes it even funnier. Sometimes I really like this kinda light-hearted story, expressing some deep thoughts with ordinary events that may happen in everyone's daily life, instead of telling the story in a serious tone.

  We all need a little humor and fun in our life. We all need to learn how to laugh and make fun of ourselves,especially when you are at the botton of your life.

  This kinda humor reminds me of the humor in sex and the city, the story of 4 single ladies in the NYC, Elizabeth is also from the NYC, I assume that is sorta New Yorker-humor maybe?

  It is all about self-discovery, in my opinion.

  And self-discovery includes various aspects of a person's life, relationship, family, job, children, dreams, happiness, sorrow and regrets. There are too many emotions and too many things in a person's life that sometimes it is too hard to see yourself clearly

  WHAT DO YOU WANT?

  sometimes it is not about your parents, not about your friends, not about your children or husband, it is just about YOU

  I do not think it is selfish, cuz so many people make their decisions based on ordinary social pattern, conform themselves to different rules that restrict them

  Some never have a serious thought about what they really want in their life.

  It is easy and even comfortable of course, to live a life that is like everybody else's.

  No difficult decisions to make, no hard choices to choose, no adventurous risks to take, and nothing to lose

  but the safety you get from this kinda life also on the other hand, makes you lose some other possibilities in life

  the possibility of going to another country and just have fun, learn a new language with no practical purpose at all, eat without considering your weight too much and just be lazy everyday, living life without a specific purpose

  the possibility of going to a rural mountainous area and stayed at a small place just for cleaning the soul, just to be with yourself in silence everyday, in some way, it is kinda cutting you out from the outside world.

  the possibility of going to an island and looking for balance, a balance between pleasure and divine devotion.

  Aren't we all looking for a balance in our entire life?

  We have tons of emotions everyday, every week, every month and every year. some good, some bad. some destroyed you, some nourished you. Some made u go up, some made u go down.

  sometimes I think that people do not really think about what they want is because this question is too big, too deep, too strong that if u really think about it and find the answer at last,or even just sense a vague tendency towards the ultimate answer, it may change your life a lot, and make it upside down. And this frightens a lot of people.

  the mysterious uncertainty of what may happen frightens people so most choose to run away and just escape this question

  But nothing is easy, life is hard

  nobody ever said that life is easy. It is hard cuz despite the fact that GOD arranges a fate to everyone, part of your destiny is still in your own hand, You can change it, You can earn it, You can choose it and make it your way.

  However for some people, even thinking about what they really want it hard, cuz it is hard to figure out what one really wants, it takes time, it takes efforts, it even needs you to look at yourself thoroughly and face all the mistakes you made or achievements you obtained in your life. But living the pattern life is way easier, you do not need to think, you do not need to struggle, it is already there. you just need to live it.

  I love this book cuz I relate it to my own self-discovery, I wouldn't say that I already found out everything I want in my life and have a wonderful blueprint, instead I am still figuring it out, but at least it is in a right direction and I am at peace with myself, with the inner me.

  I am always haunted by negative emotions in the past, especially when I first entered university and face a brand-new life, everything is different and I got lost. something fall apart and life overwhelmed me as i did not truly know what I really want

  It is a hard time as I do not know how to face it and decided to escape it by eating a lot everyday, trying to fill the emptiness inside my heart, that big black hole that takes all my positive energy and dragged me in everyday.

  I was not happy, I was always in rage with myself, I was impatient, I was even blocking other people at that time, drowning in my own pathetic thoughts

  It miserable. It really was and if u did not try to step out of this cage that lock you, this chain that tied you, then day after day, you will be a black hole yourself

  that is why I find it really important, this self-discovery thing.

  I regard it as a life-long course we all have to take and learn.

  part of the reason I decided to go to the United States as exchange student is because I want to find out what I really want

  and I know I can not do it here, in a familiar place surrounded by tons of familiar people.

  I just have to go to somewhere else, somewhere entirely new, somewhere I can be a total stranger there, somewhere nobody knows me nobody meets me before, somewhere I can start fresh because everything will be new

  Travel is a good way, or in other words, going to another place is a good way to pick yourself up, or to start fresh, when you are totally lost and at the bottom.

  I think maybe to some extent, you just need to get lost in a new country or place when you are lost in your own life

  Overwhelming by the brand-new everything in another place is gonna change your focus and enables you to look at life in another way. And trying to live a life in this new environment, trying to figure everything out there will in some way, clear up your own lost minds.

  And just as Elizabeth, I did find myself in the new place, begin to live a life I always want, and begin to appreciate lots of things or people in my life, everyday is wonderful, maybe not every minute wonderful, but in the end, it always is wonderful. How grateful I am!

  it is all about fun or pleasure sometimes, not everything has a meaning to add or a goal to achieve. sometimes it is just about having fun, about getting drunk, about dancing high, about being whoever you want you be. To all those pressures and responsibilities we add to ourselves, we need the guts to say "I don't give a damn" sometimes in our life.

  yes GUT

  that is the important element. most people do not have that

  do not have the gut to do a lot of things. to take risk, to change life, to fall in love madly, to just be yourself.

  it is the choice we made, the people we met, the life we lived that made us who we are now, that changed us, that delighted us, that helped us, that made us a better person as we are walking right towards to what we really want, without hesitation.

  I would rather like to live like this, trying to figure out who I really am, what I really want, instead of just choosing an easy path but ending up just like everyone else

  It is hard all this, cuz you could meet the wrong people, you could choose the wrong choice, you could end up in sorrow or pain. But you could also meet great love, you could also made the right decision and discover something new, you could also end up in happiness that other people could not feel the same cuz they never understand.

  Everything is possible, cuz that is real life.

  so real that it is desperate and hopeful at the same time, it is the splendid combination of heaven and hell

  it is so real that I can feel my heart bouncing, my heart breathing and that's what matters

  Something I love in the book:

  -P34

  "to find the balance you want," Ketut spoke through his translator, "this is what you must become. You must keep your feet grounded so firmly on the earth that it is like you have four legs, instead of two. that way, you can stay in the world. But you must stop looking at the world through your head. you must look through your heart, instead. that way, you will know GOD."

  -P85

  "So be lonely, Liz. learn your way around loneliness. make a map of it. sit with it, for once in your life. welcome to the human experience. but never again use another person's body or emotions as a a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearning"

  -P94

  "But I explained that deep grief sometimes is almsot like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. when you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. but if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope."

  -P127

  "that it is better to live your own destiny perfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection."

  -P154

  "But I felt a glimmer of happiness when I started studying Italian, and when you sense a faint potentiality for happiness after such dark times you must grab on to the ankles of that happiness and not let go until it drags you face-first out of the dirt-that is not selfishness, but obligation. you were given life, it is your duty and also your entitlement as a human being to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight.

  -P175

  you are, after all, what yo thing. your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.

  -P187

  the resting place of the mind is the heart. the only thing the mind hears all day is clanging bells and noise and argument, and all it wants is quietude. the only place the mind will ever find peace is inside the silence of the heart. that is where you need to go.

  -P197

  "someday you are gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. you'll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing and you were in the best possible place in the world for it-in a beautiful place of worship, surrounded by grace. take this time, every minute of it. let things work themselves out here in India."

  -P198

  "He probably was your soulmate. you problem is that you don't understand what that word means. people think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. but a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. a true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. but to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. too painful. soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. and one go. it's over, Groceries. David's purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of that marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. that was his job and he did great, but now it is over. problem is, you can't accpet that this relationship had a real short shelf life. you're like a dog at the dump, baby- you are just licking at an empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. and if you are not careful, that can's gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. so drop it."

  -P234

  prayer is a relationship, half the job is mine. if i want transformation, but can't even be bothered to articulate what, exactly, i am aiming for, how will it ever occur? half the benefit of prayer is in the asking itself, in the offering of a clearly posed and well-considered intention.

  -P235

  Destiny,I feel, is also a relationship- a play between divine grace and willful self-effort. Half of it you have to control over, half of it is absolutely in your hands, and your actions will show measurable consequence. Man is neither entirely a puppet of the gods, nor is he entirely the captain of his own destiny. he's a little of both. we gallop through our lives like circus performers balancing on two speeding side-by-side horses- one foot is on the horse called "fate", the other on the horse called "free will". and the question you have to ask every day is, which horse is which? which horse do i need to stop worrying about beacuse it;s not under my control, and which do i have to steer with concentrated effort?"

  -P345

  It is easy enough to pray when you are in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul hold tight to its good attainments.

  -P368

  and love is always complicated, but still human must try to love each other, darling. we must get our hearts broken sometimes. this is a good sign, having a broken heart. it means we have tried for something.

  -P397

  to lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life.

• 女孩，你的名字不叫折腾

  作者：糖宝贝Jessica 发布时间：2008-06-26 23:24:08

  对于价值观混乱无比的我来说，要用一个固定的标准来评价一些东西是一件十分困难的事情，所以我习惯了在评价物品时找一些参照物。

  例如：当我在享受假期旅行时，会觉得一本差不多30块的书只不过是一天的小费而已；而当我开始迷恋芝士蛋糕时，这本书可就相当于我2块芝士蛋糕；很不幸的是，买《一辈子做女孩》时，我正开始对芝麻糊燃起了空前的热情，这就意味着，这本书让我少吃了一个月的南方黑芝麻糊。

  当初在joyo订下这本书纯粹是被这本书的名字所吸引，无论中文还是英文，虽然两者看起来实在没多大关系。

  本以为这是本像《二十几岁决定女人的一生》一样说教加励志的书，想不到看到的却是一个30岁的女人因为不知名的原因跟丈夫离婚后就全世界到处折腾——从东半球到西半球，从北半球到南半球。更让人难以忍受的是，其间还穿插了若干作者小吉同学怨念而又纠结的内心独白，看得我都为她着急——这孩子咋就这么折腾呢？

  说白了，这只是一本描写一个女人因为满肚子坏情绪而满世界折腾、还一边折腾一边吐苦水的书而已。而且，在看完了这本书后，我也和刚离婚的小吉一样充满了怨念，我感觉到许多许多包美味的芝麻糊微笑着离我渐渐远去，有的还回过头来奸笑着嘲笑我的选择。

  说真的，我想破了脑袋也想不明白：小吉同学到底是怎么了？不就是离婚了吗，用得着上天下地、鸡飞狗跳，又是美食又是旅行又是祈祷的吗？

  忍不住感叹啊，有人伤心了可以去意大利、去印度、去巴厘岛，有的人伤心了却只能晚上躲在厕所里哭一小会，还要苦恼该怎么让哭肿了的眼睛看起来正常一点。

  有一次在杭州的公交车上听到一则广告，里边有一句话说：“情绪是最大的奢侈品。”看吧，坏心情果然是有钱人才玩得起的东西。那些还会为晚上是吃小荤还是吃大荤而犹豫不定的小朋友，赶紧闪一边没心没肺地开心去吧，伤感这种小资产阶级情调可不是你们能承受得了的。

  好吧，我承认我其实是在嫉妒，有钱人当然可以选择改善心情的方式，就算是没事想上火星瞅瞅也很我没多大关系。

  可是，作为一个美食加旅行的爱好者，我实在不愿看到小吉带着坏心情上路，然后将这些坏心情发泄在美食和旅行上。

  因为有些事情，是用来让人生更美好的，不是等到你的人生一塌糊涂时才被想起来，并拿来当作解药的。

  好吧，我继续承认我纯粹是多管闲事，美食和旅行不是我的私有物，有人爱在享受美食和旅行的过程中惦记着自己的小伤小感小情调根本不关我的事。

  可是，当我还处于这个看到“女孩”一词并不会把自己排除在外的年龄时，实在不愿意看到这样的一本书被冠上《一辈子做女孩》的名字。

  一辈子做女孩，是指一辈子像小吉这样为一点小事就怨念而纠结，还是指一不开心就满世界折腾呢？ 或者，这里的“女孩”一词仅仅代表的是一个不够成熟不够勇敢，因此还会因为一点小情绪而无理取闹的年龄？

  觉得文章里的小吉很像《恋爱假期》里把男朋友吓走的阿曼达，那个在《我最好朋友的婚礼》里愿意做男友棉花糖的卡梅隆·迪亚兹，在这部电影里完全没有了之前的机灵可爱，一副全天下都与她有仇的样子，活该男朋友出轨，活该恋爱不成功。谁受得了不开心就如同火神上身一会要去意大利吃美食一会要去印度练瑜伽打坐的女孩。

  是啊，谁没有些个坏情绪，有些人会觉得心情不好时世界灰暗，但千万别天真地以为世界真的会陪你灰暗下来。毕竟整个世界不会去在乎个人的忧伤，就连这个世界上的人，也没有几个会真正关心你的坏情绪。

  因此，如果“一辈子做女孩”这个题目是希望女性读者能像文中的小吉一样30岁了还有精力像不懂事的小女孩一样脾气暴躁、仿佛全世界是她一个人的情绪垃圾桶，而且还24小时随时随地微笑服务的话，那其他女同学还是赶紧省省吧。

  你当然可以30岁了还像小女孩一样因为伤心生气，但千万别真的像一个小女孩一样幼稚地指望着整个世界都来哄你给你糖吃。