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《戴尔·卡耐基人性的优点》(纪念珍藏版)的唯一目的就是帮助你解决你所面临的最大问题：如何在你的日常生活、商务活动与社会交往中与人打交道，并有效地影响他人；如何击败人类的生存之敌：忧虑，以创造一种幸福美好的人生。当你通过《戴尔·卡耐基人性的优点》(纪念珍藏版)解决好这一问题之后，其他问题也就迎刃而解了。如何消除忧虑，积极开创人生，风靡全球的心理自助宝典！卡耐基先生结合自己数十年的成人教育训练经验，探究了产生忧虑的原因，总结出了消除忧虑的具体方案。

人性的优点――打造健康心理

第一篇 拒绝忧虑的“万能公式”

1 知道吗，今天就是最好的礼物

2 最坏的情况又能如何

3 生病的心比生病的身体更危险

第二篇 破译忧虑之谜

1 解开忧虑之谜

2 工作不仅是为了谋生

3 不要错把效率当成效果

4 爱情让时间溜走，时间让爱情溜走

5 凡人积累金钱，智者积累快乐

第三篇 建立快乐的习惯

1 人不能同时想两件事情

2 何必犯愁，三个月后就会忘记的小事

3 用概率计算可能发生的事情

4 顺从规律，承受不可避免的事实

5 让不幸就“到此为止”

6 不要再锯早已锯碎的木屑

7 希望是不幸者的第二“灵魂”

第四篇 保持充沛的活力

1 憧憬光明，影子就会留在身后

2 紧张是一种习惯，放松也是一种习惯

3 疲劳是精神因素引起的

4 积极的心理暗示

5 永葆青春的心理辞典

6 秩序，是天下第一要律

7 工作的另类意义：寻找乐趣

8 睡眠是一剂修复身体的灵药

9 从谷底开始的人，每一步都是向上走

第五篇 情绪可以控制

第六篇 打造愉快的心情

附录 成人教育大师戴尔・卡耐基

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如果你有担忧的问题，就应用威力 卡瑞尔的万灵公式，做好以下三件事：

第一，问你自己“可能发生的最坏情况是什么？”

第二，如果你必须接受的话，就做好准备接受它。

第三，镇定地想办法改善最坏的情况。

> 当我们强迫自己面对最坏情况，并且先从精神上接受它时，我们就能够权衡所以可能的情形，使我们可以集中精力解决问题。

>你们要愿意承担这种情况，因为接受即成事实，是客服随之而来的任何不幸的第一个步骤。

>当我们也做好了接受任何最坏的情况的准备时，我们就不会再损失什么，也就是说一切都可以重新获得。

⒈与其为昨天的事情懊恼，不如花时间去解决明天的问题。

―― 美国海军指挥官欧内斯特·金上将

⒉ 吾等要务，非着眼缥缈之远方，而应着手实在之近处。

――托马斯·卡莱尔

⒊“如果一条船已经沉没，我无法将它捞起；如果它将要沉没，我也无法阻止。与其为昨天的事情懊恼，不如花时间去解决明天问题。而且，如果总是纠缠于那些事情，我的生命也不会长久。

⒋ 无论是战争年代还是和平时期，积极的思维和消极的思维最大的区别在于：积极的思维考虑的是事情的因果关系，从而得出合平逻辑的、建设性的计划，而消极的思维往往会导致心理紧张和精神崩演。

⒌仁慈的灯光，指引我……

愿你你照亮我的脚步，不求

看到遥远的路途，

所需仅一步。

―苏兹贝格

⒍只有把握今天，才会感觉幸福；明朝狂风暴雨，任它拉朽摧枯。内心若要安逸，今日不可虚度。

――古罗马诗人贺拉斯

⒎万物都在变，唯有变化这个法则不会变。

――哲学家赫拉克里特

⒏上帝创造了今天，我们要乐享其间。

――洛威尔·托马斯

⒐关上通往过去和将来的铁门，生活在完全独立的今天。

一个人如果能够意识到自己是什么样的人，那么，他很快就会知道自己应该成为什么样的人。但是，他首先得在思想上 相信自己的重要，很快，在现实生活中，他也会觉得自己很重要。对一个人来说，如果能充分肯定自己的能力。那么，他很快就会拥有巨大的力量。

twenty-one words from Thomas Carlyle that helped him lead a life free from worry: "Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand."

one of the worst features about worrying is that it destroys our ability to concentrate.

Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "Business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."

Step I. I analysed the situation fearlessly and honestly and figured out what was the worst that could possibly happen as a result of this failure.

Step II. After figuring out what was the worst that could possibly happen, I reconciled myself to accepting it, if necessary.

Step III. From that time on, I calmly devoted my time and energy to trying to improve upon the worst which I had already accepted mentally.

Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction

书籍介绍

《戴尔·卡耐基人性的优点》(纪念珍藏版)的唯一目的就是帮助你解决你所面临的最大问题：如何在你的日常生活、商务活动与社会交往中与人打交道，并有效地影响他人；如何击败人类的生存之敌：忧虑，以创造一种幸福美好的人生。当你通过《戴尔·卡耐基人性的优点》(纪念珍藏版)解决好这一问题之后，其他问题也就迎刃而解了。如何消除忧虑，积极开创人生，风靡全球的心理自助宝典！卡耐基先生结合自己数十年的成人教育训练经验，探究了产生忧虑的原因，总结出了消除忧虑的具体方案。

• 作者：陈不动 发布时间：2019-04-26 09:40:00

  正如文中所说，这本书提供的可能是我们早已知道的道理，它存在的意义不过是提醒我们。然而这种提醒实在是太有必要了。

• 作者：Question S 发布时间：2018-04-25 21:25:13

  好像读过

• 作者：良吉吉Bee 发布时间：2014-11-04 23:55:19

  NO.14 书籍给人们提供更多的思路，有思考才有收获。睡前看看书也能用于实践，不太容易受到情感的困扰。

• 作者：栩别 发布时间：2008-11-30 14:02:04

  番外篇有点糟

• 作者：沐风 发布时间：2006-08-03 20:42:36

  认识卡耐基的起点

• 作者：Sosohehe 发布时间：2016-08-20 01:52:46

  初一枕边读物

• 要相信，一切都会好起来

  作者：Hammer_ 发布时间：2013-02-21 21:33:42

      读这本书是自己上一年最焦虑的时候，当时，现实把之前自己不切实际的外贸发财梦破灭，在一间外贸工厂工作了一个月，果断辞职，待业在家，每天不是在找工作，就是在找工作的路上，身心疲倦，每天都生活在焦虑，彷徨，迷茫和对未来的恐惧当中，特别是爸妈无言的压力，和周围有同学开始拿到各种offer的氛围，更是让自己苦不堪言，怎么都淡定不起来。

    之后，在读着卡内基大叔这本书的同时，自己一直努力着，思考着，慢慢也熬过了这段艰难的日子。之后，不知道是运气，还是努力有了回报，跑了无数个面试之后，在年末拿到了最喜欢的offer，现在入职一个多月，一切感觉良好，现在觉得当初的焦虑，当时所谓的困难根本不是困难，所有的患得患失，犹豫，焦虑，是你成长道路上一定要克服的障碍，焦虑和恐惧都不可怕，重要的是，你依然要果断去行动。

    这本书当时是给自己打鸡血用的。里面很多技巧很有用，里面很多名人名句，事例，都在不断加深我把这本书当成鸡血书的定位。

     说此书是鸡血书并无贬义的意思，当你焦虑，犹豫，彷徨的时候，我敢说，那些小技巧都是没有太大实际意义的，特别是，当你和我一样，本来就是一个理性主义者的时候。

     面临一个抉择，面临一个大的困难，遇到一个你感觉不是马上能解决的重大问题，你生活在压力，焦虑当中的时候，所有的理性分析，技巧，对当时的你来说，都只是鸡肋罢了。即管你已经很明白，一切都只不过是时间问题，只要努力，只要主动，只要再耐心一些，问题会迎刃而解的。

     那时候你最需要的，不是书上的技巧，不是理性分析（假定你本来就不是个笨蛋），是能令你，带着焦虑的心的同时，仍有动力行动起来的决心。

     一切能令你真正在焦虑的同时行动起来的东西都是好东西。而那时候，往往不是书本，是你最亲近，不会伤害你。你可以向他抱怨，发牢骚，听你说着漫无边际的说话的好朋友，是会一直给予你支持的爱人，是想尽办法不想给你压力的家人，最后，是所有能给你打鸡血的文章，实例，经验，名人名言！！统称，鸡血文！

      这本书不能给你一个好兄弟，好姐妹，好爱人，好家人，但是能提供最后一样东西，大量的鸡血，和辅助鸡血的技巧。

     

      一切的目的，就是让你行动起来。

       你一定要相信，在你最黑暗，最焦虑的时候，只要带着书上提到的一些分析技巧，秉着理性，务实的作风，行动起来，一切都会好起来的。

  卡内基大叔最后是这么说：

  We already know enough to lead perfect lives. We have all read the golden rule and the Sermon on the Mount. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction.

  我们知道的已经足够让我们过上幸福美满的生活了。你已经读过了无数的黄金法则，大师智慧，我们的问题不在于无知，而是不作为。

  而这本书，就是给你大量的鸡血，实例，最终，让你行动起来！

  在你明白了，自己是在looking for action的时候，此时是你读这本书最佳之时。

  So, this is an action book.Let's turn the pages

  A great journey is about to begin.

  Good Luck:)

  End

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  全文摘抄：

  Part One - Fundamental Facts You Should Know About Worry

  1．

  RULE 1:

   If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight

  compartments". Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.

  RULE 2: The next time Trouble-with a capital T- comes gunning for you and backs you up

  in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:

  a. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?"

  b. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.

  c. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst-which you have already mentally • agreed

  to accept.

  RULE 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your

  health. "Business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."

  2．the best possible way to

  prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm,

  on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for

  the future. By all means take thought for the tomorrow, yes, careful thought and planning and

  preparation. But have no anxiety.

  3．When the cruel Chinese war lords wanted to torture their prisoners, they would tie their

  prisoners hand and foot and put them under a bag of water that constantly dripped ...

  dripped ... dripped ... day and night. These drops of water constantly falling on the

  head finally became like the sound of hammer blows-and drove men insane

  Part Two - Basic Techniques In Analysing Worry

  RULE 1: Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "

  half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they

  have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."

  RULE 2: After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.

  RULE 3: Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decisionand

  dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.

  RULE 4: When you, or any of your associates are tempted to worry about a problem,

  write out and answer the following questions:

  a. What is the problem?

  b. What is the cause of the problem?

  c. What are all possible solutions?

  d. What is the best solution?

  In A Nutshell

  1. Develop a deep, driving desire to master the principles of conquering worry.

  2. Read each chapter twice before going on to the next one.

  3. As you read, stop frequently to ask yourself how you can apply each suggestion.

  4. Underscore each important idea.

  5. Review this book each month.

  6. Apply these principles at every opportunity. Use this volume as a working handbook

  to help you solve your daily problems.

  7. Make a lively game put of your learning by offering some friend a shilling every time

  he catches you violating one of these principles.

  8. Check up each week on the progress you are making. Ask yourself what mistakes you

  have made, what improvement, what lessons you have learned for the future.

  9. Keep a diary in the back of this book showing how and when you have applied these

  principles.

  Part Three - How To Break The Worry Habit Before It Breaks You

  RULE 1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the

  best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers".

  RULE 2: Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things-the mere termites of life-to

  ruin your happiness. Remember "Life is too short to be little.".

  RULE 3: Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: "What are the

  odds against this thing's happening at all?"

  RULE 4: Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your

  power to change or revise, say to yourself "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."

  RULE 5: Put a "stop-loss" order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing

  may be worth-and refuse to give it any more.

  RULE 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust

  为了今天

  Just For Today

  1. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true,

  that "most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Happiness is

  from within; it is not a matter of externals.

  2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything

  to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit

  myself to them.

  3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not

  abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

  4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will

  not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and

  concentration.

  5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn

  and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don't want to do, as William James

  suggests, just for exercise.

  6. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as

  possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticise not at all, nor find

  fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.

  7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life

  problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep

  them up for a lifetime.

  8. Just for today I will have a programme. I will write down what I expect to do every

  hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurry and

  indecision.

  9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour

  sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.

  10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy

  what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

  Part Four - Seven Ways To Cultivate A Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace And

  Happiness

  RULE 1: Let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for ' 'our

  life is what our thoughts make it".

  RULE 2: Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt

  ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never

  waste a minute thinking about people we don't like.

  RULE 3:

  A. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. Let's remember that

  Jesus healed ten lepers in one day-and only one thanked Him. Why should we expect

  more gratitude than Jesus got?

  B. Let's remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude-but to

  give for the joy of giving.

  C. Let's remember that gratitude is a "cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be

  grateful, we must train them to be grateful.

  RULE 4: Count your blessings-not your troubles!

  RULE 5: Let's not imitate others. Let's find ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is

  ignorance" and "imitation is suicide".

  RULE 6: When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade.

  RULE 7: Let's forget our own unhappiness-by trying to create a little happiness for

  others. "When you are good to others, you are best to yourself."

  Part Five - The Golden Rule For Conquering Worry

  Part Six - How To Keep From Worrying About Criticism

  RULE 1: Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have

  aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.

  RULE 2: Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain

  of criticism from running down the back of your neck.

  RULE 3: Let's keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticise ourselves.

  Since we can't hope to be perfect, let's do what E. H. Little did: let's ask for unbiased,

  helpful, constructive criticism.

  Part Seven - Six Ways To Prevent Fatigue And Worry And Keep Your Energy And Spirits

  High

  RULE 1: Rest before you get tired. RULE 2: Learn to relax at your work.

  RULE 3: If you are a housewife, protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home

  RULE 4: Apply these four good working habits

  a. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at

  hand.

  b. Do things in the order of their importance.

  c. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to

  make a decision.

  d. Learn to organise, deputise, and supervise.

  RULE 5: To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.

  RULE 6: Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about

  insomnia that does the damage-not the insomnia

• 直视人性的弱点，更要正视人性的优点

  作者：生活不累 发布时间：2017-02-16 09:38:59

  提到人性这个话题，我们都不由自主的想到卡耐基先生的《人性的弱点》。他从人性的弱点出发，步步剖析，为根除人性的弱点开出了有效的处方。而他又在著作《人性的优点》中通过对人性的研究，运用心理和社会学知识，对人类共同的心理特性进行了深入的揭示，并告诉我们认识自己、相信自己、克服“忧虑”、从而走上成功幸福的人生之路。

  了解自己，先从了解人性开始

  相信很多人和我一样，看过《人性的弱点》的，远比看过《人性的优点》的人多。虽然这两本书都是出自卡耐基之手，但是从书名的受关注程度就已经反应出人性的本质：首先吸引人注意的往往是“不好”的一面，比如同样是新闻事件，而暴力、凶杀的新闻远远大于好人好事的新闻。这恰恰反映了人性的本质，但不用为此感到羞愧，这并不说明你心理就阴暗，但《人性的优点》可以从人性研究的角度，告诉你科学的答案。

  每个人的一生中都充满了各种困惑和疑问，但能找到解决问题办法的人总是少数的成功者。卡耐基自己的经历，记录了人们摆脱焦虑、忧愁等心理困境，解决生活、职业、家庭中出现的各种问题的方法，以及走向成功、获得美好生活的实际案例，让你认清自己、相信自己、克服焦虑，充分开发潜在能力，发挥人性的优点。

  再伟大的人都曾经有过自卑，这并不可耻

  德国天才哲学家尼采，自幼就有一种自卑感。他曾追求过一个美丽的姑娘，但因为太笨拙，没有成功，这使他更加自卑。因此，他一生都是在追寻一种强有力的人生哲学来弥补自己内心深处的自卑……尼采成了著名哲学家，“超人哲学”的奠基者，他打破了以往哲学演变的逻辑秩序，凭的是自己的灵感来作出独到的理解，写了许多文笔优美、寓意隽永的著作。

  著名歌星王菲说，她也曾自卑过很多年。因为她觉得自己不聪明，18岁时勉强考上福建一个很不出名的大学，又没有去上，到现在也没有一个正经学历，我国著名作家毕淑敏说过，几乎所有的名人都体会过自卑。而这些名人的自卑经历，在《人性的优点》里都有过深度的剖析，

  卡耐基说，不要以为我追忆这些往事是为了彰显我的成功，我只想让那些在苦恼和自卑中无法脱身的可怜的年轻人，可以更勇敢一些，更自信一些。要知道，父亲的那件旧衣服和那双随时掉落的大鞋，曾经让我如此地苦恼、羞窘和自卑，我差点就完了。

  每个人都有擅长的事，你坚持下去就够了。

  作为成功学的奠基者戴尔•卡耐基就是这样一个善于解决人生各种问题的大师，但他并非天生如此。

  小时候，他是一个经常担惊受怕、受穷困折磨、受同学欺负的小镇男孩。为此，他经常委屈、哭泣。而他的母亲恰巧是一个乐观的人，她经常鼓励卡耐基坚强、自立，勇于承受生活的打击。受母亲乐观性格的感染，他不仅考上了师范学院，顺利获得了学位，还克服了演讲的焦虑，最终从事了成人教育事业，并获得了引人注目的成功。他一生经历了工业革命、两次世界大战、冷战等人类历史发展的关键时刻。可以说，他的经历就是他著作最大的素材来源。当然，为了应对人生中遇到的各种问题，他还对心理学和社会学进行了深入的研究。所有这些，都使得他对人性的复杂幽微有更深刻的体验和洞察。

  卡耐基的人生告诉我们一个道理：每个人都有擅长的事，你只需坚持下去就够了。

  《时代周刊》这样评价： 除了自由女神，卡耐基或许就是美国的象征。而《人性的优点》这本书也加印数次，版本众多。中国友谊出版公司在继出版《人性的弱点》后，读者反映势头热烈，为响应读者呼声，又出版了《人性的优点》。本书最大的亮点是：记录了人们摆脱焦虑、忧愁等心理困境，过上快乐生活的方法，以及走向成功的实际案例，帮助读者认清自己、相信自己、克服焦虑，充分开发潜在能力，发挥人性的优点，开拓成功美好的新生活。

  

  人性的优点

  现代人走向成功、获得美好生活的起点，无数人生问题的答案之书。

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